DENIAL QUOTE

For years I've been holding it up to them saying "this is some real bull"... & you would think they'd sniff it & say, "whooooh yeah, that's some real bull" & fling it down. NOPE! Instead they choose to hold it, pet it, call it a bunny rabbit, & give it a name. So what can you do? Look up "Denial" on wikipedia, shake your head, & back away slowly... (c) 2011 One of the realest chicas you ever met, Stephanie Josiah.


This quote and another "If someone loves you, don't make them hate you... and if someone hates you (for damn sure) don't make them love you" (c) 2011 Steph Josiah - are the types of quotes that you earn by going through some tough sh*t!  *Hey, I starred out one of the letters to make it appropriate for my more critical viewers, but at home, and in the car... and even sometimes out in public if the shoe fits and you walked through it... and it stinks, it's not poopy, it's sh*t!!!*  That there's another quote!!!  (c) 2011 Steph Josiah  LOL but I digress.

I got family, I'm sure you do too, and if you've lived for even a few years you've learned that not everyone who is family has the same thoughts and feelings about stuff.  But that doesn't give people a free pass to take a crap all over you.  There are kids growing up in households where they are singled out for being "the fat one", "the light one", "the dark one", "the imperfect one", "the black sheep", etc.  and nobody - not even family and especially NOT family, have the right to put those labels / those cheap little jokey, snide comments on you!  I grew up feeling unloved, even though my mom worked dayum hard at trying to over-compensate for my step-father's neglect and verbal abuse, and my sister's lack of interest in, well pretty much, having a sister... I still grew up isolated because I knew that the only person in the universe that really wanted me alive was my mom.  Shoot, I was teased in church, at school, and at home... and those were the only three places I ever was.  Nothing says "you don't belong" like not belonging ANYWHERE you usually are.  Sucks.

I won't go too far into detail, but what I will say is.  You can do NOTHING about your family of origin, status of origin, and the crap that was thrown your way... but you need to believe that it gets better.  By the grace of God alone, I'm still here.  I could have been another dead teenager (so many times) but I'm still here and looking back, I can say that it can get better and it will get better if you push forward.  You may not be able to take those people with you, when you move forward... and it may not be healthy to - in the first place, but forgive them for being absolutely horrible (so you don't poison yourself with bitterness) and let them kiss your dust.  Don't turn back around again, if every time you do... they end up hurting you again.  Forgiveness does not equal forgetfulness.  Protect yourself because YOU MATTER and you are LOVABLE.  Anyone who treats you as less than that, does not deserve to burden your life and keep hurting you!  Nobody deserves to hurt you, just like you don't deserve to hurt anyone else.

Just a little life lesson learned by me and shared to you.  I'll step off my soapbox now LOL


xoxoxo

~Steph